Bowling Alleys Aside

Much thanks to 2E's Aunt Sheryll for passing along the following CNN piece on wedding cutbacks:

Bowling alley wedding: How creativity is priceless in a bad economy

Oddly enough, 2E's and I had considered (in fact, we'd fallen in love with the idea of) having our rehearsal dinner at the contagiously hip Brooklyn Bowl in Williamsburg, but the total cost with space rental fee + in-house catering + open bar exceeded our budget. Go figure. (But new york brides and grooms - if you have the money to spend, it's worth checking out.)

  The laid-back, warehouse vibe of Brooklyn Bowl

While chatting with my sis on the phone this weekend, she described our wedding (very cautiously) as "anti-traditional," and I think that characterization is right on the nose. It's not that we're mocking tradition in any way; we're just not confined to wedding precedents. We march to the beat of our own drum -- a phrase I've never used until now because it makes me sound like the disgruntled mother of an angsty teen.

Working in an "anti-tradition" atmosphere has given us the freedom to infuse our creativity into the process and treat the wedding as a blank slate rather than a set of rules to which we must conform. And that creativity, that blank slate -- as Ms. Chen points out in her article -- has dropped our costs significantly (see For the Kid in All of Us).

For brides and grooms just starting out -- you may want to begin with your idea of a traditional wedding. Look at each component and decide if it's something worth holding onto or improving or eliminating entirely. Much of what we're planning for our event came from putting our own spin on a traditional element. So I guess in that sense we're not "anti-traditional" at all. Just "traditional with a twist." A phrase I've never used until now because it makes me sound like the douche-y bartender from an 80s-era John Hughes movie.

Groom Eye for the Straight Guy

You might call this highly unlikely ... but I say screw likely. What has likely ever done for me?

I mean, what's-her-face did it. Valerie Bertinelli. She's getting hitched to Tom Vitale and asked him to take charge of planning the wedding. And she seems just fine with it (see forced smile below).

Now I know many of you ladies out there would eat your own veil before you give your man the task of planning and designing the whole shindig ... but we can't ignore the fact that, in a world where gender reversal is as common as cornflakes, there are grooms out there who are ready and willing to take the reigns. And I'm looking for that groom.

 This guy has no idea what he just signed up for

And I'm looking for that bride ... the bride that is too overwhelmed or occupied or anxious or (gasp) apathetic to plan her event ... who is willing to put her trust in her man and this blogger slash groom as consultant and a team of capable men by his side ... we need a bride who threw "likely" out the window long ago and occasionally uses "tradition" to line her hamster cage. We're going to prove once and for all that grooms have what it takes to put together a fine-looking wedding (minus the cake shaped like a beer can).

And it'd be helpful if this couple was in Los Angeles. Just saying.

So. Who's up for it? Brides? Grooms?

Inspiration #62: Some Traditions Are Awk-ward

Inspiration #52

And only about 97% of the 6% of men who propose over the phone get rejected over the phone.